During this past weekend, I turned fourty five years old. It doesn’t quite feel real to me — but then again neither did 30 or 40, for that matter. I just can’t quite quite fathom just how quickly the years have been passing. I still remember with crystal clarity, my teenage years and my twenties; and, sadly, I’m facing the realization that there are possilbly more days behind me than there are ahead… There are more birthdays behind me than ahead of me; and, strange as it may sound, I’m fine with that.
During all of those years, the one thing that has remained constant, even through all of the changes, has been my family. We have a very unique relationship; and it’s difficult to explain just how close we are. We have had so many experiences; and we have developed so many traditions. One of the central traditions we have always have been birthdays. No matter where we are in life or what we are doing, we always come together to celebrate each other’s birthdays.
That’s how it was this past weekend.
The party, itself, was pretty much what I’ve come to expect. We have some amazing cooks in the family. So, the food was utterly and completely amazing. The entire core family came; and we spent the afternoon hanging out, eating, and simply enjoying each other as family. Typically, we each have our own special day; but this year we decided to combine my birthday, Shebi’s birthday (my cousin’s wife), and Stephanie’s birthday (my other’s cousin’s girlfriend). Doing it that was didn’t detract for any of our birthdays. In fact, I think it only made the celebration that much richer.
In the end, the goal was to spend time together; and that’s exactly what we did.
Honestly, that’s what i’ve always loved about birthdays. It’s not the presents, which are nice. It’s not the food, which is always amazing. It’s spending time with the people I love and that I’ve known my entire life. Of course, this year was different, as I’ll be heading off to postulancy. So, I won’t live in the state anymore. I know, because of that, I won’t be able to attend all of our gatherings. I just hope I can make some of them, from time to time.